What we wish we knew about sex 

My wife is 8 months pregnant and as she was driving today, she got involved in a terrible head collision accident. Her car was pushed 15 metres away while she was inside. She was displaced from the driving seat to the passenger seat. I thank God she survived without any injuries except swellings. After checkups, the baby is 100% okay. God is great.

My husband and I had the conversation about using your old sexual experience to please your new partner! You’re literally trying to please your partner with something someone else enjoyed. And get frustrated because your partner doesn’t like it because we haven’t taken the time to learn what we as a couple like! ❤

I loved when Jackie said “we want to say no without consequences” because yeah ! Really hurtful when there are consequences to us as women not giving our bodies.

Honestly, I never struggled with sexual sin until I recently moved off into my own apartment a few months ago. The spiritual covering and accountability that I was under in my parents’ house was no longer over me when I moved, and to be honest, I wasn’t strong enough to fight it alone. The devil knew where to attack me. Depression and low self esteem caused me to do things I never would have done before because I wasn’t in the word/prayer like I should have been and felt helpless and weak. I am promising all of you now that I will repent and turn away for good. Please pray for me or share your journey if you feel led. I’m unwilling to hand over any more of my mind to the enemy.

You also have to realize your spouse may just not desire sex as much as you. Not due to past trauma or anything bad, but simply because they don’t. And if you’re that spouse that doesn’t want it as much, realizing that just as there is beauty and sanctification in your spouse when they humbly sacrifice their desire for sex when you don’t want to, there is a beauty and sanctification when you (the spouse who doesn’t want sex as often) humbly gives themself to their spouse even when you don’t want to and finds joy in doing so.

This is a GREAT conversation!! Salute for your courage and transparency. My husband and I traveled through every bit of the terrain you mentioned here. I was convinced I was incapable of a climax! I had been so abused and robbed of innocence so young…. He thought he knew what to do and I was convinced that because he was “the one” that he would just know me somehow. Pure ignance and insanity at its best! LOL 20 years in and after much work, many tears, very uncomfortable conversations and prayer in an atmosphere of humility and transparency…intimacy is beyond what I ever thought possible!! It was and is work but that fruit though!!!! 🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥 If you struggling don’t give up on eachother. If HE healed ours… He can definitely heal yours. GOD CAN HEAL ANYTHING BROKEN WHEN WE GIVE HIM ACCESS TO IT

Jackie just answered a question that I didn't realize I held for decades. I wondered if the problems in the marriage bed (heart, mind, physical) wouldn't exist if I was pure. It never occurred to me that is a prosperity type thought. But Jackie is absolutely right. Sure we brought more baggage from not being "pure" before marriage but even "pure" people are sinners. Baggage is part of the human relationship. Wow, just like that, one less twisted thought out my head.

Normalize healthy christian conversations around sex and relationships. This was insightful!

I really like how the Perry's family talk so naturally about this theme. The world really have the lead voice about sex, and churh always flew from this theme. As a husband, married for 8 years, I learn a lot with you guys. Praise the Lord! Sorry if have mistake, I'm just a humble Brazilian, who have never went to a country who speak English

i’ve fought porn very hard for about the past year now. i’ve even had a bad time using my VR headset watching it combined with the use of alcohol. as time moved on i got rid of the things that tempt me and set me up to fail. i still fail though. i still go through weeks failing. what you guys talked about with purity culture was great and helped lift a weight off my shoulders. i’m 25 and still a virgin. i’ve never dated someone; i’ve never even kissed a girl. and i worry i’ve become too far unpure that i’ve spoiled my future sex life/marriage. i know though, God wants me to have hope for these things. he wants me to make my life a confession. i’ve seemed to form a perspective on life that is toxic that i hope to get rid of: the black and white battle of staying pure and the hell that you’re in when you sin vs the life that you live when you are completely sober and obeying God. i know this isn’t necessarily a bad way to look at life but it can be. instead of focusing on my own ability to overcome sin consciously, instead, focusing on Christ and his life. Knowing that he is ALWAYS with me. Whoever has read this far thank you. this is part of my confession.

This is the most authentic conversation I've heard around sex in marriage.

I laughed out loud when she said, I have to fake it so you can stop. They are speaking real truth. Learning from these young people.

Such a great episode. As a single lady God is showing me the worldliness of my views on sex! Podcasts like this help so much!

I am cracking up. Jackie is extremely correct. We do sometimes make extra noise so he can move it along. But it doesn't mean he is bad at sex, you might just want to do the "stuff" that comes after the climax (I don't mean sleeping). Foreplay is part of the sexual experience as well. 15 minutes can be as pleasurable as 60 minutes. Just don't let sex become an idol. "Do not give it more glory than the one who created it."😉

Jackie hit it on the nail of what women expected (to be pleased, to be loved, to orgasm.) and the fear of telling their husband this because of the stigma around it. Men think if they’re “good” at having sex they please the lady. Not knowing the road to orgasm for a lady is much deeper than that.

My ex had been abused and also went through multiple people himself along with an extreme porn addiction, and extreme sexual practices. Because I loved him and his multiple other great qualities, I was willing to be patient and help him through anything and be with him no matter how much his past hurt me. I believe he truly tried to be a better person with more self control while he was with me, and had the intention to leave all that mess in the past, but I simply couldn’t handle his wandering eyes and his tendency to objectify me, as a virgin. We never married, and we remained chaste throughout the relationship, but he definitely had very high expectations for our future sex life in marriage. He would swear up and down that he wasn’t gonna care that much about sex and be patient with me when I expressed insecurity and concern due to his past. Eventually he completely backtracked and admitted very bluntly that he thinks that because I’m a virgin, and I won’t perform a laundry list of specific kinky things that he had so many other partners do for him, I will be really boring in bed. He said he just can’t for a second accept a boring sex life and he’ll have to cheat on me and watch porn if I don’t commit to do what he says once we’re married. I’ve never felt so belittled and horrified in my life. I had to end the relationship that night. It has been really heartbreaking and soul crushing to see the consequences of sexual immorality in him and in our relationship. I don’t know how to trust any more and I’m sure because of this I will experience intimacy issues in my future marriage. I promised myself I will never enter a marriage with a man who expects me to be a pornstar on the wedding night, or on any other night for that matter, even if it means I have to marry another virgin who can understand my insecurities so we can give each other the grace to figure things out without putting so much pressure on each other.

I felt this to my core im currently going through a separation and i know one of the issues was sex! As a mutli time surivor of assualts from childhood to adult i was constantly re-traumatized by my own husband. The past 2 years ive had to seek therapy because when i said no it was demanded or even forced anyway or i would even give in because my no was met with silent treatments etc or my christian wife responsibilities were thrown in my face or because of how i was raised i felt like regardless of how i felt i was supposed to follow through. I felt powerless and definitely felt the trauma all over. I was advised it wasnt Gods will. Im pursing my peace now 🙏

I absolutely love when Jackie breaks out into a tongue when Preston says something that hits her spirit! 😀

I decree and declare that Preston and Jackie Perry will write a book together based off of these series and more. You two are amazing together.

I love these intellectual well thought out conversations

If we’re just keeping it real, “you need to kill your idea of sex because it’s just never really going to be like that in marriage” is a VERY hard sell. It’s an incredibly difficult pill for a young man in heat to swallow. I think we sold the “just wait for marriage and it’ll be everything you hoped for” idea because that hope is a lot easier to hold on to.

I am proud of you guys taking on this subject. (and trying to keep it PG). You are awesome! I’m a pastoral counselor for over 40 years and you are hitting the important points right on! I agree with all you are saying and am impressed that God has given you so much in your eight years of marriage. Keep going wi5

This felt like a conversation given by your older sibling and their partner. Speaking truth and leading by example bc they want the best for you ❤

“I want to say no and still be loved.” Come on Jackie!!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥

I was abused a lot as a child and lived a homosexual lifestyle for years. Four years into my walk with christ I still fear sex and wonder what that would look like in marriage. The idea of a man still scares me sometimes.. thanks for this conversation x Edit: thanks for the messages. God has Done a lot of healing in my heart and He did reveal to me that the rest of my healing will be found in marriage where I’ll experience through my husband the true love of Christ. I know enough about my destiny to know that I cannot fulfill it without the marriage God has ordained for me.. so I do want it because of my destiny in serving Christ and I know though it will be hard God promised it would be a good marriage. I trust Jesus with all my heart so I’ll enter the marriage out of faith.. I know my husband is a good man and we will work through my traumas

This is powerful I love y’all openness to strengthen the body. I have been married 32 years and was a virgin when I got married at age of 21. My husband was 26 and experienced I had to tell him babe I’m not a girl from “the streets” and he understood that. He may not have liked it but he understood what I was saying and approached me differently. Open communication ladies and gents are important.❤

Wow. I have never even thought about the freedom to say no to sex within marriage. Thank you so much for this conversation, Perrys!

This is so good! Talking about sex as a Believer is so important, and the stigma needs to taken out of these conversations. It is a lot to expect people to go from purity where they don't even talk about sex to being a husband or wife and pleasing every need of another person while trying to learn themselves sexually. It is important to be committed to your spouse even in the bedroom; to be gracious, kind, caring, and willing to always learn and grow. All of that is key. It is also important and nice to have those spontaneous moments, where one or the other doesn't have to come ask or schedule a time and can just come together out of desire and passion

As man new to world of sex, I really appreciated this conversation I’ve been really impatient with my girlfriend and this has been really helpful in the act of remaining celibate

This spoke to me on so many levels. I felt validated listening to it. I was a victim of sexual abuse and it’s mind blowing to my husband why I’m not wanting to please him the way he wants and the frequency he needs. Thank you for y’all’s work!

When the goal is always "your pleasure is mine" and "mine is yours"..it leaves so much more room and vulnerability to be open and honest with each other on what's liked and what's not liked.

I have never heard people talk about this part of what sex inside marriage can look like ... how you walk through sex with your spouse when you've been through trauma, how important it is for a woman to be able to say no without that meaning, "I reject you." But it creates more freedom and better intimacy and a better sex life as a whole. Thank you. Loved how you mentioned that work in marriage, work in sex actually leads to fulfillment. So many people stop at "marriage is spelled W O R K", you guys touched "and okay, this is why the work is all worth it!!" Enlightening and encouraging, appreciate y'all

I really needed to hear this! As a believer and a sexual health educator, I struggle teaching about the body in way that’s 1) True to the word 2) Easily digestible for anyone. This podcast truly shifted my perspective on sex, teaching and growing with my partner!

I love this so much, lust and trauma doesn't end when you enter a marriage. Both marriage and sex requires work and focus from both parties. My hubby and I struggle but we work through it all. Our marriage is always improving 💜

Thank you Jackie for providing language that expresses my past trauma and the correct way this should be approached in marriage. God bless y'all ❤

Thanks for bringing this issue to light! I think having a part 2 episode talking about higher desire women would be helpful. It is often framed that men are the ones that get rejected but there is an increasing number of women get rejected due to the man’s past sexual abuse, porn, extramarital affairs, erectile dysfunction, etc. And the women often end up thinking there is something wrong with them or that they are no longer desirable.

As someone struggling with lust, I clicked on this so quick

This video is literally giving me so much hope! I’ve recently gotten dumped because of my lack of sexual urge and “sexual availability” due to various things on my end…one being my outlook on our relationship and how I was more focused on learning and growing and caring for one another spiritually, emotionally, and mentally versus physically.

“Y’all don’t even wanna cry in front of people, that tells you how fragile you must be” the way I woooo’d! This was a great video.

That communication part about what is working and not working in your sex life is SO critical. That was something my former spouse and I couldnt really ever have open dialogue about. Another thing to note about trauma in the marriage relationship is that men too bring sexual trauma that they may have suppressed. It takes prayer, patience and humility to walk and work through that. Thank you, Jackie and Preston. So good, y'all! ❤

This is sooo good! Have stayed pure and almost 38….does almost feel like you mentioned like once I’m married (had that purity ring and read those books, etc.) that sex life should be great. But, honestly I think that I’ve waited so long, now I actually feel a bit scared to have sex when I think about it. Prayers needed for once married and grace from my future spouse.

This is a wonderful conversation. Very healthy and loving. Can you all do a video for men that have a hard time having hope for an exciting marriage? I feel like anytime I hear people talk about it, it’s always about how hard it is, and how much I have to let go of all these things that I want. Additionally, I feel like sometimes the grace, patience, understanding, affirmation, is so much more expected and required on one side than it is the other. “Happy wife , happy life”, but any lack, or denied desire I have is rooted in fragile male ego or some other shallow character trait. I do believe in accountability, sacrificial love, etc. Sometimes it just feels like there’s minimal benefit for the man, other than character development, and family. Which are huge yes, but is that all?

Brittany of the Intimacy Firm would be a great guest. She is a Christian sexologist. Also, it would be interesting to get a glimpse of how abuse of males could show up in marriage as well. A truly needed podcast, thank you!

We all have a relationship with sex that is unique to us. The one you marry will not have the same relationship with sex as you. It’s important to find out that person’s relationship with sex before marriage. Not by having sex but by speaking about it with each other. One of the most powerful things to me when I was married, was that she gave herself to me. My relationship with sex was so different than other men's. I had a level of passion that was not normal. I never want sex to feel like I’m doing something to you and not with you!

This was so refreshing to watch. I was talking to this gentleman who tried to convince me “you have to try it before you buy it” when I told him I made a vow to God to be celibate before marriage. I stood steadfast in my beliefs and he could not understand why I would make such a “drastic” choice. But your conversation has solidified what God has taught me and what I have learned through my own choices and mistakes. Thank you for speaking openly and biblically and for shedding light on a topic that is avoided by most Christians.

As someone raised in a religious family and in a biblically based church, no one in my influential circle put the idea of promiscuity in the same framework as you both; that having that experience with other people teaches you about other people and their wants, but not your spouse. That's powerful. Thank you for being so open and straightforward with your testimonies and insights.

They are so funny to me! Got me crying laughing LOL 😂 But in all seriousness this is a much needed conversation and I’m so thankful for their wisdom. We need more healthy, Christian conversations regarding sex.

These conversations are so important like we can’t ignore there’s an entire book dedicated to monogamous sexual passion that was even read on important holidays by everyone lol. The reluctance to talk about sex is such a circular problem- it creates the exact conditions that lead to it in the first place. We have to be willing to open up and be honest.

This was awesome. Both husband and wife openly being honest and speaking the truth!

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. Im the only girl he has ever kissed. We’ve been married 12 years and we just had a conversation the other night about expectations in sex. It’s better now than it ever has been. Wonderful. While our sex life has had its ups and downs, we’ve never been tempted to be unfaithful to each other. Yes, he’s had difficulties through the years with keeping his mind only on me, but he’s never been addicted to pornography. And of course we’ve had to grow in this area as we’ve continued to learn ourselves. One thing we’ve always done is talk about what has pleased us. I so wish the church would have these types of conversations! Thank you for sharing!

The subtle shots in the beginning were EVERYTHING lol. Always enjoy the marital banter between you two. Great coverage as always.

Sister Jackie you made a LOT of sense!!! We are ever changing and our desires at “50”, isn’t the same as it was at “30”! I’m praying that married folk understand and respect the change🙏🏽 Thank you both so much for having this conversation because we truly need to allow the church to lead the way for sex and not the world!!!

On a serious note, this was so helpful and encouraging. We don’t have enough honest and Godly talks about sex. Thank you for sharing👍🏾🙃

Such a good conversion!!! I've been married 18 years, and yes, we're different people and enjoy or need different things at different stages of our lives. Loved this conversation ❤

this is good. this isn't how i thought the conversation was going to go but it was so needed. it struck my personal trauma and brought me a greater understanding of how to navigate through it. it's definitely interesting how our sexual experiences can impact our relationships, even after years. purity is definitely something i am aiming towards and hope that i can be secure and promise God celibacy.

I believe we learn sex from porn and TV shows and don't realize it. I wish there were more people that talked about this, thanks for this video 😊💖

Thank you for this conversation and your transparency 🙌🏼 I have had many sexual encounters in the world that I never want to repeat with my future husband... I low-key wish I had just stayed a virgin bc I know I'll have to deal w that trauma when the time comes.

That part about faking moaning sounds so they can hurry up and finish to get off of you is sadly true. But sometimes I didn't even have that much mercy and would just lay there not making any sound at all because a lot of times I didn't feel nothing. So when Jackie said that it's sad because the man can't even read your body language, I just sighed a depressed sigh inside.

I just want to make it known that I love the content you guys publish; meaningful and engaging conversations and topics... something that I aspire to have within my kingdom marriage. I value the transparency and relatability.

This was helpful tbh. I’ve waited and plan to continue till I’m married but society beats me up about it. I remember I was over it and just started blurring the lines with small things and the feedback was ughhh if a virgin does it like this I’m good. It could be as small as a kiss I kiss with passion and he kissed like I was a two dollar lady of the night. He stopped and made me feel so stupid about not know how he liked to kiss. Which killed my confidence moving forward I shut down or felt like I had to prove myself kissing wise. So I love that y’all pointed out marriage is work within the lines of sexy time. Also it’s hard for me waiting and not being compared to all the women he’s been with for me it was kissing. So my biggest obstacle is feelings free enough to be open and honest bc my feelings are now hurt and it’s hard to not return the favor

Thanks to you both for your bravery for us all I lack in being straight forward but listening to you two really has encouraged me to let my shame go and embrace who I am and what I need or want as well as honoring him Again Thank you!!

This was an awesome discussion. You've done the body of Christ a great service. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to you and the way you play off each other. I pray for continued happiness, communication and love in your marriage.

Being single waiting on marriage this was a very interesting conversation feel like I’ve learned a lot from it

This is so spot on. Having been married and divorced twice, I can openly say that sex was a problem in both marriages. Some of the problem was due to trauma and some due to drama (infidelity). It's difficult for a woman to not only deal with past trauma (abuse and misuse), but also be dealing with her husband's drama that he is bringing to the relationship. That's disastrous! Thank you for talking frankly about this! I also resonated with the discussion about the purity era of the 90's and the horrible idea that sex in marriage should just happen because one person wants it to happen.

I have been married for 51 years and 8 months. We had been married maybe 8 years when my husband said, “you are not the same person I married”. My response was you are correct and why would you want me to be? Marriage and sex are both work!

Wow, I’m so grateful for how vulnerable and honest you both are…I really needed to hear this conversation. I love how real y’all are about thoughts and emotions. Thank you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼

Throughly enjoyed this faith filled podcast!God bless you two,for being candid & honest!

I love love love this frank, honest, open and transparent conversation about sex. Both of you compliment each other beautifully. God bless y'all for tackling this subject matter. Much needed.

Love this as a person who is not married but have experienced sexual abuse, that is so big to feel safe, I was in an abusive relationship as well and he looked at sex as a healing property as to I would forgiven him for his behavior. This is so good!

This is real. My ex husband used to pout when I said no. Like full on silent treatment. For hours and then gaslight me saying he was "fine". The pressure that was put on me was so bad, it made me not want him at all. It's a matter of respect. Sex is not the only form of intimacy 💜

Amazing conversation. For the first time, I feel like someone understands. I used to say I felt violated over and over again in my marriage and felt bad for saying it. This was helpful.

I love the realness that you both share with each other. I’m subscribed! You both have so much to offer and help teach us to better understand ourselves and our partners.

I love this topic and I appreciate you both being vulnerable I’m single and I’ve had this fear that when I get married that my husband won’t be able to satisfy me because I would compare it to having sex when I was in the world. This answered a lot of questions I had and gave me peace about what to expect and how to work out these issues in a marriage

While watching your husband and wife video teaching, what came to my mind is: it must be difficult experiencing intimacy with a partner has had the emotional/intimacy with the same sex, particularly in a sexual relationship. The homosexual demons do not just get up and walk out of the house where he/she use to living. In other words, Jackie has to address those demons that lived in her , vis versa for Preston.’s sexual attitude toward women. Jackie masculine energy was dominantly portrayed when she was in the gay lifestyle and it appears to be still present in the relationship between you two communicating. You both play it off well by joking with one another. However the message comes across as be sarcastic between each other. Which is a put down not friendly jokes. I am not saying women should be stupidly submissive, like a weaker vessel but, in public interactions , Black women must learn to portray their femininity as a leader. Take a lesson from, Michele Obama, This is a challenge for most Black women, even those whom haven’t been in the Gay lifestyle. Black women tend to be strong will. As Black women we don’t let our Black men be leaders in public or the home. I think sometimes this issue is portrayed in both of your interaction on BRvid. How we present ourself, it’s a challenge for Black women to learn how to let the black man rise and be the head and the leader of the family. I think Jackie still dresses like she’s gay, which is an indication her masculinity is more dominant than her femininity, but that’s just my observation. There is a demon spirit associated with the homosexual lifestyles and when you come out of that lifestyle, you got to do spiritual warfare to command that spirit to leave your body so that we can be presence in the relationship and not as the man . God does not condone non-binary -cis-gender characteristics. These terms came from the question: What is a Man and what does it mean to be a woman? That’s a trick of the Devil. Now transgenders are non-binary, that there is no gender identity. I beg to differ God did not put Adam and Steve he put Adam and Eve in the garden, so which one is Adam and which one is eve? If he wants to be Adam then she wants to be Adam, then who is Eve. The question is, What does God want in the role as husband and wife he made man to represent Christ and Eve to represent the church “Period”

I absolutely love this podcast! Well, ALL of them! The explanations were on point and give so much clarity and I am single...with 3 kids never married. Addressing the lack of biblically intact education on this topic is a blessing in it self. Hearing that the "test drive" is unnecessary due to the overall process of getting to gain intimacy with your husband/ wife was definitely given by the holy spirit! Love how God uses your union💗 thanking God for His abundant blessing in your family as a whole💗

Wowwww you both touched on so many things! My husband and I have been married 23+ years and we just had this conversation about how we sometimes have to “schedule” our intimacy. He commented on how that is sad and I reminded him that it’s progress. Previously we would have been mad at each other if we didn’t have time or he’d do the “it’s okay” when I don’t feel good but his whole body language would tell me it wasn’t. Now we can say, hey tonight’s not a good night, let’s shoot for tomorrow. And it helps me to get the house in order so we have us rushed time together. Ahhhh so much goodness here! Everything affects the bedroom! 🤯

Such an enlightening and very honest conversation. My take home: everything really centres around communication and how we choose to communicate our sexual needs with our manner in a way that facilitates growth for "us" And since we are ever growing, our sexual needs and experience will change so how we should find a way to "consistently " look for how "we" can improve our sexual experience with each other as per the growth phase we are in at a time . It simply bows down to couples establishing a structure that encourages honest conversations in marriage . Shalom!

This is the REALEST conversation I’ve ever heard about sex within the Christian community. Thank you Perry’s!! 🔥

The reason why I love watching this video so much is that it's an open and honest conversation between 2 mature individuals on a subject that society labels as taboo when really it is not and it's just a part of life. ❤🙏🏾

Wow you guys opened my eyes to a new prayer point. I've never in my life seen a married couple have such candid conversations. I definitely want a partner I can be so real with. Wowww this is awesome to see.

Awesome convos. We need to hear more about this in the Christian community

I can’t handle how good this is. Thank you guys for always being 💯 REAL.

Y'all are hitting the nail on the head. I grew up on the purity culture and it seriously effected my marriage bc I thought oh I have been faithful to God and now I married the only man who doesn't want sex all the time. It was Soo hard. Getting better bc we had to walk through all of that and me who wants it all the time.

This was sooooo good! I’m still single and I wrote this on my prayer list about a 2-3 years ago. This was confirmation.

The comfort between the 2 of you and the honesty of this conversation is 💯. Thank you. Got bless you both

You both are such a blessing to so many this session was so awesome I’m definitely sharing with others!

Glad you guys as a Godly married couple are talking about this on your podcast

For me it was Preston who asked the question that I thought I alone wanted to know the answer to. Wow, thanks for reading my mind, Preston! I also love his sense of humor, he's just so real!! God bless you both, Jackie and Preston!

I love this podcast. Thank you for your calm energy 💕

This conversation was 🔥!❤Thank you for be transparent, real and honest. I think y’all should do a series or dive more into it.

Loved this! So encouraging in the right ways! Emboldened to stick it out for the right one! x

You both are such an anointed couple. Thank you for sharing this 🙌

Great talk! Jackie, the foolishness has GOT to cease 😹😹. Preston, your ability to ignore it is so admirable. I don't know WHICH is more comical 😹. I know i always mention it but it NEVER gets old and yall NEVER disappoint! But you also never disappoint in delivering top notch, poignant content either! Much biggups!!

This was great! The church needs this real life stuff. So many things were brought to light. Keep 'em coming! Thank you!👍🏾👏🏾🙌🏾😎

This is awesome, confirms so much that I'm feeling, I was sexually abused at 25, it still affects me at age 56. Affects my sex life in my marriage

I LOVE THIS CONVERSATION!! We need MORE of this! I am waiting for marriage and I need to know these things. Thank you so much for sharing.

I’ve followed you guys and you all help me in my marriage. I am very much like Jackie and I read that book by John Piper and it was beautiful! Keep doing this guys! It’s helping me

Love this convo and love y'all! Such a healthy lens on something that can be so easily corrupted! Let him use you🙌🏾❤️

No isn't always trauma, sometimes you're just tired and your body shuts down. You have to build to a level of pure unselfish intimacy.

Thank you for this vulnerability because it gives an authentic depiction of what difficulties come with marriage. Now that I’m older, it’s nothing what I thought it would be like when I was younger lol