What we wish we knew about sex 

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We clearly knew something about sex before getting married but sadly, most of our perspectives were toxic. Worldliness and unhealthy Christian frameworks about sexuality shaped our thinking as it probably has for many of us. So let's talk about it.
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@channel_5651 5 meses atrás
My wife is 8 months pregnant and as she was driving today, she got involved in a terrible head collision accident. Her car was pushed 15 metres away while she was inside. She was displaced from the driving seat to the passenger seat. I thank God she survived without any injuries except swellings. After checkups, the baby is 100% okay. God is great.
@rosecharles9617 5 meses atrás
God is amazing!!!!!
@naomiqueen637 4 meses atrás
Praise God!
@vernonherb 4 meses atrás
That's wonderful
@zayspeed2519 4 meses atrás
Wow, happy for a quick recovery and no long term damage!
@alexisjoy806 4 meses atrás
Amen!! Thank you Lord!!! 👏🏼
@christinagoins203 11 meses atrás
My husband and I had the conversation about using your old sexual experience to please your new partner! You’re literally trying to please your partner with something someone else enjoyed. And get frustrated because your partner doesn’t like it because we haven’t taken the time to learn what we as a couple like! ❤
@thelegacyofgaming2928 6 meses atrás
Perfect example of why waiting until marriage is best.
@eden6768 6 meses atrás
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 unfortunately, that’s not everyone’s story, so learning how to move forward from that is also necessary. Open conversations about that.
@olympiabuckingham4243 5 meses atrás
WOW! I've never even thought of this. Thank you for sharing this perspective.
@johnfestusvandy3766 5 meses atrás
@randyjacobs9609 Hora atrás
Wow thanx for sharing, this is an eye opener.
@walkwithaissata Anos atrás
I loved when Jackie said “we want to say no without consequences” because yeah ! Really hurtful when there are consequences to us as women not giving our bodies.
@living1der 10 meses atrás
1 Cor 7:5-7 should be your guide not your emotions or issues
@sralinkethiopia 10 meses atrás
Watch how they are saying ‘OUR body’. I guess we all draw a line somewhere in the bible.
@chidinmaoguamanam7732 10 meses atrás
@@living1derdefinitely not a Godly reply, because that’s not how Jesus would reply to trauma, that’s your flesh talking and using some verses in a whole chapter to think your point is solid, but that’s just a carnal reply and God is love and you should read what Love is
@zhaystyle 9 meses atrás
@walkwithaissata Me too, otherwise it Feels subtly forced. @living1der And if a child who has a loving parent can expect love & compassion to make it better when they have gotten hurt (hopefully they can get at least a hug if not the traditional “kiss it make it better” response) How come we can’t expect compassion I/o “consequences/punishments” from our “loving” partners?
@kathyalex778 6 meses atrás
@@swedmerson90 you should never "endure" sex. No one should be touching you if you're not happy about it
@fastronaut909 Anos atrás
Honestly, I never struggled with sexual sin until I recently moved off into my own apartment a few months ago. The spiritual covering and accountability that I was under in my parents’ house was no longer over me when I moved, and to be honest, I wasn’t strong enough to fight it alone. The devil knew where to attack me. Depression and low self esteem caused me to do things I never would have done before because I wasn’t in the word/prayer like I should have been and felt helpless and weak. I am promising all of you now that I will repent and turn away for good. Please pray for me or share your journey if you feel led. I’m unwilling to hand over any more of my mind to the enemy.
@BearingMySeoul Anos atrás
Don't beat yourself up. Your story is not unique. A lot of times just having a believing roommate will keep you accountable to your decision to honor God with your body. Are you in a church community? Loneliness is very real and it drives us to make all sorts of poor decisions that we otherwise wouldn't. Having good people around who have your best interests in mind with no judgement attached makes a world of difference! 💕
@leylina9770 Anos atrás
I rebuke the spirit of condemnation in the name of Jesus. Non of us are perfect not one. God loves you and k own our weaknesses..Thats the whole point he died love💖
@drealu22 Anos atrás
Amen! Praise God for your conviction. 1 John 1:7 (walking in the light leads to fellowship with others and being cleansed from sin.), James 5:16 is so true, when we confess our sin to one another we are healed. The point of confession is to walk in Jesus’ healing. 2 Cor. 7:10 are used in my life to get my eyes off myself and my efforts and onto following Christ and loving the things he loves.
@drealu22 Anos atrás
Remember how Paul says that the love of Christ compels me? When Temptations of lust or gluttony came my way I would fear failure… The Lord showed me that fear has to do with punishment and no one who fears is perfected in the love of Christ. There is no fear in love but perfect love casts out all fear. 1 John 4:18. I no longer “white knuckle it” we, those reconciled to God through the blood of Christ and his resurrection as a gift by grace through faith, fight sin no longer according to fleshly means rather we fight with weapons that have divine power to demolish strongholds. 2 Cor. 10:3-5 we put on the full armor of god such as the sword of the spirit which is the word of truth Gods living word which is active sharper than a double edged sword able to discern the thoughts and intentions of the heart through the Holy Spirit. And the shield of faith which has the power to demolish the flaming arrows of the evil one. :) you don’t have to promise to us. Just depend on Jesus every day he is with those being tempted. Jesus said blessed are the poor in spirit, blessed are the meek etc. He didn’t come for the righteous but the unrighteous and to lead them to repentance. Our strength comes from the Lord. In our weakness, and acknowledging our weakness to the Lord, his grace is sufficient for us for his power is made perfect in weakness! Paul says that he boths all the more in his weakness so that Christ power may rest upon him! Just love Christ that is the greatest commandment. May we all let go of everything that hinders and the sin that easily entangles us and run with perseverance the race marked out for us fixing our eyes on Jesus!
@maryprice8458 Anos atrás
@@drealu22 Amen! Replacing the time I spent fearing I would fail Him and the feelings of worthlessness to reading God's word absolutely changed the way I battled with my lust! I can't do it on my own but God can do anything! Focusing on loving God instead of "not doing the bad thing" fills my heart with joy! Then he said to them, “Go your way, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10 NKJV
You also have to realize your spouse may just not desire sex as much as you. Not due to past trauma or anything bad, but simply because they don’t. And if you’re that spouse that doesn’t want it as much, realizing that just as there is beauty and sanctification in your spouse when they humbly sacrifice their desire for sex when you don’t want to, there is a beauty and sanctification when you (the spouse who doesn’t want sex as often) humbly gives themself to their spouse even when you don’t want to and finds joy in doing so.
@shanellemack2565 7 meses atrás
This is a word! Finding the beauty and sanctification when giving one's self is an amazing concept. I appreciate you sharing this perspective. A lot of time as a lower desire individual one can feel broken and transfer pressure to the higher-desire individual to "make" the lower-desire person want sex more or in the same manner.
@catmations5631 5 meses atrás
Preach! It is possible to be intimate with your spouse even when you do not want to as an act of love and find joy in their happiness
@egboninny9355 5 meses atrás
I love this submission, wonderful insight🥰
@ElVerdaderoRandy 2 meses atrás
I think it’s beautiful when a woman submits to her husbands desires out of her own volition. Having a biblical knowledge on a wife’s duty to her husband goes a long way in a marriage. I am understanding to “not tonight” or “I’m not feeling well” but those days when she tells me “no” but then she embraces me and invites me into intimacy is a beautiful act. When she afterwards thanks me for wanting her and expresses to me that she enjoys our intimate time it always brings us closer together.
@marymac1972 Anos atrás
This is a GREAT conversation!! Salute for your courage and transparency. My husband and I traveled through every bit of the terrain you mentioned here. I was convinced I was incapable of a climax! I had been so abused and robbed of innocence so young…. He thought he knew what to do and I was convinced that because he was “the one” that he would just know me somehow. Pure ignance and insanity at its best! LOL 20 years in and after much work, many tears, very uncomfortable conversations and prayer in an atmosphere of humility and transparency…intimacy is beyond what I ever thought possible!! It was and is work but that fruit though!!!! 🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥🙌🏼🔥 If you struggling don’t give up on eachother. If HE healed ours… He can definitely heal yours. GOD CAN HEAL ANYTHING BROKEN WHEN WE GIVE HIM ACCESS TO IT
@Babyboy_Matt Anos atrás
Wowwwww just got married two weeks in nd me and my wife struggled sexually. Struggling with thoughts of an inability to climax part is a real thing. But practice makes perfect
@normiejeanj Anos atrás
So happy for you!!. It also speaks to your faithfulness and perseverance as a couple. Also to add one adjustment, practice makes better, not perfect. Married nearly 40 years, as we're still learning.
@marymac1972 Anos atrás
@@normiejeanj that’s what I’m talkin about!!! 40 years and STILL learning… it’s the humility for me! CONGRATULATIONS!! SALUTE!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼And AGREED! Practice definitely makes better, never perfect. The expectation of perfection is a huge stumbling block in marriage. Imperfect people are incapable of perfection…I constantly have to remind myself.
@ginabk4456 Anos atrás
Been married for 12 ,I want to believe this but I feel tired.
@@Babyboy_Matt be patient. There's more to learn about your spouse other than sexually. Those other areas will help with the sexual one. The more you connect with her emotionally, the easier it will be for her to flourish sexually. Your wife is a treasure to be discovered. The Bible compares a wife to precious gems. Gems are hidden and there's much work to get to them. 😉 Have fun! Together!
@lbee8247 Anos atrás
Jackie just answered a question that I didn't realize I held for decades. I wondered if the problems in the marriage bed (heart, mind, physical) wouldn't exist if I was pure. It never occurred to me that is a prosperity type thought. But Jackie is absolutely right. Sure we brought more baggage from not being "pure" before marriage but even "pure" people are sinners. Baggage is part of the human relationship. Wow, just like that, one less twisted thought out my head.
@missnurseeri Anos atrás
Love it! AMEN
@goseeaboutagirl Anos atrás
Agreed that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1) regardless of purity before marriage; however, the joy, fruit, and reward of an undefiled marriage bed should not be minimized. Also, keeping pure honors God and our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭13:4‬ ‭ESV‬‬
@lbee8247 Anos atrás
@@goseeaboutagirl yes I agree with you. I don't think any true Christian minimizes the biblical standard for sex and marriage. For me, I was not raised with biblical principles. Nor was I saved until a lot of life had happened. I knew when God saved me that I was forgiven for everything. I was not condemned. I am not condemned. I was saved one year after being married. I have so many issues and me and my husband have so many issues in that area. I often imagined, no on some level, I totally believed that had we been virgins when we got married we would have no issues in that area. Not condemnation. I'm speaking on issues, conflicts and such. I fool heartly believed that those who waited were blessed with a harmonious marriage bed. And those who didn't were not. But what Jackie pointed out released that foolish notion that waiting guarantees a gift of harmony. God does not guarantee harmony in relationships for obeying Him. He guarantees harmony (just to stay consistent with words) with Him. Waiting glorifies God as all obedience to Him does. But just like obeying Him in anything else sometimes the glory is no earthly reward. We are still sinners. We still have baggage. Waiting will not eliminate our issues. It just doesn't add to them. I now realize there are people who waited who have just as much if not more issues then me and my husband of almost 30 years. Look at Joshua Harris and his wife. They waited. And now he has denounced Christ, purity and divorced his wife. There was obviously issues and conflicts that had to have shown up in their marriage bed. And if his wife was saved and is walking with Christ despite her husband's rejection she is still glorifying God in her obedience. Her reward is in heaven. Yet her heart is broke on earth in ways some who did not wait will never know. The obedience to God is not a path of prosperity on Earth in any kind of way. And that really did not sink until I heard Jackie put it that way in this video.
Yes! In all honesty, people who are pure or are pursuing purity have lots of baggage too. They still have desires led by the flesh and even if they “do a better job” of not acting on them, it doesn’t always mean it’s for the right reason. My own purity has been led by immense fear and not the desire to please God. I am slowly working through that but I have realized my intentions were still aligned with the flesh even though I look “pure” to my peers
@lbee8247 Anos atrás
@@veronicaquiroz8048 that's deep. Thank you for sharing. I never thought about it like that. Also, I pray God heals you in your areas.
@vynessah8062 2 meses atrás
Normalize healthy christian conversations around sex and relationships. This was insightful!
@marcosaraujo5188 Mês atrás
I really like how the Perry's family talk so naturally about this theme. The world really have the lead voice about sex, and churh always flew from this theme. As a husband, married for 8 years, I learn a lot with you guys. Praise the Lord! Sorry if have mistake, I'm just a humble Brazilian, who have never went to a country who speak English
@kyletucker6508 10 meses atrás
i’ve fought porn very hard for about the past year now. i’ve even had a bad time using my VR headset watching it combined with the use of alcohol. as time moved on i got rid of the things that tempt me and set me up to fail. i still fail though. i still go through weeks failing. what you guys talked about with purity culture was great and helped lift a weight off my shoulders. i’m 25 and still a virgin. i’ve never dated someone; i’ve never even kissed a girl. and i worry i’ve become too far unpure that i’ve spoiled my future sex life/marriage. i know though, God wants me to have hope for these things. he wants me to make my life a confession. i’ve seemed to form a perspective on life that is toxic that i hope to get rid of: the black and white battle of staying pure and the hell that you’re in when you sin vs the life that you live when you are completely sober and obeying God. i know this isn’t necessarily a bad way to look at life but it can be. instead of focusing on my own ability to overcome sin consciously, instead, focusing on Christ and his life. Knowing that he is ALWAYS with me. Whoever has read this far thank you. this is part of my confession.
@beulah8462 10 meses atrás
I really love the last part of this, not focusing on my own ability but focusing on Christ and his life. And honestly, recently God has been teaching me to totally rely on him cause just like you, ive got some heavy distractions and all through I've been trying in my own strength, my intelligence but recently I'm getting this idea on focusing on Christ. Also please can you pray for me because now I know it's not by my might but it's quite hard to focus on Christ, it's quite hard for me to pray and be on the word.
@renec.holmes2415 10 meses atrás
Bless you brother; it's hard out here being saved, Sanctified and redeemed by the blood of Christ yet denying ourselves daily.
@clivemensah9844 9 meses atrás
well done bro! youre doing great
@iriagboneseogbomo6120 8 meses atrás
Wake up every morning thanking God for letting you live to see another day. Millions of people are not so lucky. Then proceed to spend the rest of the day putting the devil to shame by avoiding everything that God hates. CONTINOUSLY LISTEN TO THE TYPE OF GOSPEL MUSIC THAT WORKS FOR YOU.....and nothing else. When you are on gospel music 24/7, you are totally surrounded by the host of Heaven as your bodyguards, 24/7!
This is the most authentic conversation I've heard around sex in marriage.
@lanafalana 9 meses atrás
I laughed out loud when she said, I have to fake it so you can stop. They are speaking real truth. Learning from these young people.
@pp-nt2kv 9 meses atrás
Then there is truly no hope for me
@maryprice8458 Anos atrás
Such a great episode. As a single lady God is showing me the worldliness of my views on sex! Podcasts like this help so much!
@isaiahluther1470 Anos atrás
Jackie hill the saints and the aints the audacity 😆 It's funny cause it's true 😫
@alliyahdabo7615 Anos atrás
@@isaiahluther1470 you i
@bloemetjel 5 meses atrás
@channellove2096 9 meses atrás
I am cracking up. Jackie is extremely correct. We do sometimes make extra noise so he can move it along. But it doesn't mean he is bad at sex, you might just want to do the "stuff" that comes after the climax (I don't mean sleeping). Foreplay is part of the sexual experience as well. 15 minutes can be as pleasurable as 60 minutes. Just don't let sex become an idol. "Do not give it more glory than the one who created it."😉
@KarlainChrist Anos atrás
Jackie hit it on the nail of what women expected (to be pleased, to be loved, to orgasm.) and the fear of telling their husband this because of the stigma around it. Men think if they’re “good” at having sex they please the lady. Not knowing the road to orgasm for a lady is much deeper than that.
@slimfit767 Anos atrás
Na its not that deep tbh
@lilrabbitcuz 11 meses atrás
It’s really not. I always say if it’s difficult for a woman to orgasm her vagina is just not as sensitive as other women’s. It’s amazing how much women don’t know about their own parts
@juanis8219 10 meses atrás
My ex had been abused and also went through multiple people himself along with an extreme porn addiction, and extreme sexual practices. Because I loved him and his multiple other great qualities, I was willing to be patient and help him through anything and be with him no matter how much his past hurt me. I believe he truly tried to be a better person with more self control while he was with me, and had the intention to leave all that mess in the past, but I simply couldn’t handle his wandering eyes and his tendency to objectify me, as a virgin. We never married, and we remained chaste throughout the relationship, but he definitely had very high expectations for our future sex life in marriage. He would swear up and down that he wasn’t gonna care that much about sex and be patient with me when I expressed insecurity and concern due to his past. Eventually he completely backtracked and admitted very bluntly that he thinks that because I’m a virgin, and I won’t perform a laundry list of specific kinky things that he had so many other partners do for him, I will be really boring in bed. He said he just can’t for a second accept a boring sex life and he’ll have to cheat on me and watch porn if I don’t commit to do what he says once we’re married. I’ve never felt so belittled and horrified in my life. I had to end the relationship that night. It has been really heartbreaking and soul crushing to see the consequences of sexual immorality in him and in our relationship. I don’t know how to trust any more and I’m sure because of this I will experience intimacy issues in my future marriage. I promised myself I will never enter a marriage with a man who expects me to be a pornstar on the wedding night, or on any other night for that matter, even if it means I have to marry another virgin who can understand my insecurities so we can give each other the grace to figure things out without putting so much pressure on each other.
@tegaedwards 9 meses atrás
Hi😊. I do not know if you’re a believer in Christ, but if you are, it’s totally awful for anyone to project their past sexual experiences (might I add sinful) on you and make you feel little for obeying God and being a virgin. And I believe this is one of the reasons still the Lord would have us be chaste and explore with one person in marriage, so we don’t have multiple portfolios that are affecting us of what is ‘required’, but two people learning about each other and building their intimacy. I’m really glad that you ended that relationship (from where I stand and how I see it), but I’d really want to encourage you not to, if I may say, also project unto your future relationship with your spouse and say you’ll have problems, and in some way, doing the very same thing your ex was doing- projecting. Rather trust God to heal you of that past and those terrible words that you may thoroughly enjoy his design for you in marriage. ❤
@diana6388 5 meses atrás
@@tegaedwardsthis was so well said! God showed you the red flag before you were married and you did the right thing to listen to it and leave. That takes a lot of self respect and I applaud you for it. I can reassure you that if you have the courage to leave that you will have the courage to find the man that will compliment you in Gods image. You are worth waiting for, and you are worth way more than what your flesh has to offer. 🫶🏼
@Stefy44 5 meses atrás
I understand to some extent what you've been through. Not because I've been through the exact same thing, but because all the men I've known in the past were addicted to porn, or at least had watched a lot of it, and asked me to do things that always disgusted me (and that I've refused to do). I'm not a virgin, so to speak, but I've always felt hurt by their impure desires and because I've always had this pure vision of sexuality and above all of using it as God created us, naturally. But I can tell you that many have turned sexuality into perversity even so-called Christians, I've discovered that most of them are still polluted by their sexual past and well, God knows, He knows our insecurities and anxieties, He knows what we can't stand and I just wanted to encourage you to put your ENTIRE trust in Him my sister. I know some very good, pure-hearted men who will never abuse you. It's obvious that this man wasn't the one for you ~ I've known disappointments too, I've shed a lot of tears for men who didn't deserve them. I've been single for 5 years and I'm waiting for the man of my life who will be perfect for me and you know what? Celibacy is much better than being with the wrong man I tell you even if it's not easy every day, Jesus is our husband and he will never disappoint us. Make sure the man you're going to marry has a pure vision of sexuality and a natural use of it without any influence from porn and the devil because he's deceived many unfortunately...
@juanis8219 5 meses atrás
@@Stefy44 You’re absolutely right, I really appreciate your comment although I’m sad you’ve experienced similar situations. But this was so so uplifting, thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏❤️❤️
@vanessiajohnson3279 5 meses atrás
I felt this to my core im currently going through a separation and i know one of the issues was sex! As a mutli time surivor of assualts from childhood to adult i was constantly re-traumatized by my own husband. The past 2 years ive had to seek therapy because when i said no it was demanded or even forced anyway or i would even give in because my no was met with silent treatments etc or my christian wife responsibilities were thrown in my face or because of how i was raised i felt like regardless of how i felt i was supposed to follow through. I felt powerless and definitely felt the trauma all over. I was advised it wasnt Gods will. Im pursing my peace now 🙏
@MrSkinneC Anos atrás
I absolutely love when Jackie breaks out into a tongue when Preston says something that hits her spirit! 😀
@noble604 Anos atrás
Not me. Jackie is mocking the gift of tongues. The second she does that, I turn it off. I pray the LORD gives her wisdom for that which she does not understand and I pray she stops with the mocking. Blessings to you and to the Perrys
@kylierhodes5440 10 meses atrás
@@noble604 why do you think she’s mocking?
@quesoqueso7598 10 meses atrás
Your name doesn’t suit you
@Chekzkrystall 10 meses atrás
@noble No, she is not. Period.
@thelmalouise1203 Anos atrás
I decree and declare that Preston and Jackie Perry will write a book together based off of these series and more. You two are amazing together.
@isaiah7787 Anos atrás
We can’t decree and declare. Not only is is not found or taught in scripture, but it also resembles manifesting in the new age.
@MicahCrumpJr Anos atrás
@@isaiah7787 I think they were joking... I could be wrong tho
See what the enemy was fighting, her future generation..
@BeatriceMedia Anos atrás
@@isaiah7787 so where does Job 22:28 fit in???
@timwilcoxson3461 Anos atrás
@@BeatriceMedia the context in that verse does not apply to us at all miss. Read the whole book of Job & you’ll quickly find out it’s a life lesson to take from his story. God alone is the one who declares & decrees things in the Bible :)
@DearGoditsmeJudy 7 dias atrás
I love these intellectual well thought out conversations
@BryGuyJohn 2 meses atrás
If we’re just keeping it real, “you need to kill your idea of sex because it’s just never really going to be like that in marriage” is a VERY hard sell. It’s an incredibly difficult pill for a young man in heat to swallow. I think we sold the “just wait for marriage and it’ll be everything you hoped for” idea because that hope is a lot easier to hold on to.
@galemosgofian8650 Anos atrás
I am proud of you guys taking on this subject. (and trying to keep it PG). You are awesome! I’m a pastoral counselor for over 40 years and you are hitting the important points right on! I agree with all you are saying and am impressed that God has given you so much in your eight years of marriage. Keep going wi5
@niyahferguson4918 5 meses atrás
This felt like a conversation given by your older sibling and their partner. Speaking truth and leading by example bc they want the best for you ❤
@porshamallen 5 meses atrás
“I want to say no and still be loved.” Come on Jackie!!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥
@digitalgames6211 5 meses atrás
It's not a problem to say no but more like how you say it. We man have an ego that woman need to acknowledge,being submissive and humble makes it easier to accept your "No".❤❤
@angem9934 5 meses atrás
@@digitalgames6211what do you mean submissive ?
@vanessavazquez5167 4 meses atrás
@@digitalgames6211no is no, we shouldn’t have to sugarcoat it to still earn respect and love from our spouses
@GoldenGraham25 3 meses atrás
@@vanessavazquez5167: Let’s switch the roles…. If your husband tuned you down with annoyance and flat out rejection, would you feel some type of way about that….. Versus, him giving a gentle, “no, babe,” make a difference?
@GuestingGameplays 2 meses atrás
@@GoldenGraham25yep it’s what I was about to comment, ignorance is usually what gets between us and the Lord and within marriage is no different. The thing that makes all the difference is communication straight up, we are people and have feelings and personality, that’s what a bondage and relationship is about too getting to know and stay related with the person; to understand the union of becoming one is in all things, love is selfless and everything is a process…
@queengkzi3942 Anos atrás
I was abused a lot as a child and lived a homosexual lifestyle for years. Four years into my walk with christ I still fear sex and wonder what that would look like in marriage. The idea of a man still scares me sometimes.. thanks for this conversation x Edit: thanks for the messages. God has Done a lot of healing in my heart and He did reveal to me that the rest of my healing will be found in marriage where I’ll experience through my husband the true love of Christ. I know enough about my destiny to know that I cannot fulfill it without the marriage God has ordained for me.. so I do want it because of my destiny in serving Christ and I know though it will be hard God promised it would be a good marriage. I trust Jesus with all my heart so I’ll enter the marriage out of faith.. I know my husband is a good man and we will work through my traumas
@cmpbstephai7082 Anos atrás
Sorry for the trauma. Praying you find healing 🙏🏽 to experience the joys in the way that God intended 🙏🏽 🙌 🙂
@paf2587 Anos atrás
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
@shakitamoorer2053 Anos atrás
Release and try Jesus wholly, relinquish your hurt, pain and emotions and God will in his love and grace turn your heart towards him which will aid in turning your heart to men. He loves you and I am so sorry this happened to you.
@Elizabeth-yy8wk Anos atrás
I think about this a lot. I think no matter the trauma, a good man will make you feel safe so that you don’t feel afraid, and are able to enjoy that beautiful gift with your husband. 🤎
@R0yalBeauty77 Anos atrás
@@Elizabeth-yy8wk Very true. I'm a living testimony. God was so gracious to allow me and my husband to feel like virgins! 🙌🏾 He's patience, understanding, and adjusts. Almost 2 years in and I know it will get even better 😌 🙏🏾.
@mildredduffie6587 5 meses atrás
This is powerful I love y’all openness to strengthen the body. I have been married 32 years and was a virgin when I got married at age of 21. My husband was 26 and experienced I had to tell him babe I’m not a girl from “the streets” and he understood that. He may not have liked it but he understood what I was saying and approached me differently. Open communication ladies and gents are important.❤
@shamiryouknow7268 9 meses atrás
Wow. I have never even thought about the freedom to say no to sex within marriage. Thank you so much for this conversation, Perrys!
@jazzyjakeen9469 Anos atrás
This is so good! Talking about sex as a Believer is so important, and the stigma needs to taken out of these conversations. It is a lot to expect people to go from purity where they don't even talk about sex to being a husband or wife and pleasing every need of another person while trying to learn themselves sexually. It is important to be committed to your spouse even in the bedroom; to be gracious, kind, caring, and willing to always learn and grow. All of that is key. It is also important and nice to have those spontaneous moments, where one or the other doesn't have to come ask or schedule a time and can just come together out of desire and passion
@Katlego222 2 meses atrás
As man new to world of sex, I really appreciated this conversation I’ve been really impatient with my girlfriend and this has been really helpful in the act of remaining celibate
@1momentintime1 9 meses atrás
This spoke to me on so many levels. I felt validated listening to it. I was a victim of sexual abuse and it’s mind blowing to my husband why I’m not wanting to please him the way he wants and the frequency he needs. Thank you for y’all’s work!
@christie9494 Anos atrás
When the goal is always "your pleasure is mine" and "mine is yours" leaves so much more room and vulnerability to be open and honest with each other on what's liked and what's not liked.
@aleksybluu3647 Anos atrás
Yes definitely. I think the issue is that as Christians we wait until marriage to be pleasured so we only focus on the pleasure we’ve “missed out on”.
@SerenaIzzaBina 5 meses atrás
@katherinejoy9048 Anos atrás
I have never heard people talk about this part of what sex inside marriage can look like ... how you walk through sex with your spouse when you've been through trauma, how important it is for a woman to be able to say no without that meaning, "I reject you." But it creates more freedom and better intimacy and a better sex life as a whole. Thank you. Loved how you mentioned that work in marriage, work in sex actually leads to fulfillment. So many people stop at "marriage is spelled W O R K", you guys touched "and okay, this is why the work is all worth it!!" Enlightening and encouraging, appreciate y'all
@nnenneasi2430 5 meses atrás
I really needed to hear this! As a believer and a sexual health educator, I struggle teaching about the body in way that’s 1) True to the word 2) Easily digestible for anyone. This podcast truly shifted my perspective on sex, teaching and growing with my partner!
@tashlee5391 Anos atrás
I love this so much, lust and trauma doesn't end when you enter a marriage. Both marriage and sex requires work and focus from both parties. My hubby and I struggle but we work through it all. Our marriage is always improving 💜
That is beautiful
@ChrisnathaTV 4 meses atrás
Thank you Jackie for providing language that expresses my past trauma and the correct way this should be approached in marriage. God bless y'all ❤
@TWilliams88 Anos atrás
Thanks for bringing this issue to light! I think having a part 2 episode talking about higher desire women would be helpful. It is often framed that men are the ones that get rejected but there is an increasing number of women get rejected due to the man’s past sexual abuse, porn, extramarital affairs, erectile dysfunction, etc. And the women often end up thinking there is something wrong with them or that they are no longer desirable.
@obisolomon569 8 meses atrás
I will be excited to see part2
@ever4diamonds 5 meses atrás
You are right!
@samuelantete6000 Anos atrás
As someone struggling with lust, I clicked on this so quick
@reginamapp5086 Anos atrás
So refreshing to see a female admit this. Thank you for being transparent.
@aleecia4925 Anos atrás
Same, girl, same😭
@timekajohnsonone Anos atrás
I am too. Glad they're having these conversations.
@AshleyMechell Anos atrás
Me too.
@miltonnavaia Anos atrás
Stay strong girls
@priscillabrown4912 6 meses atrás
This video is literally giving me so much hope! I’ve recently gotten dumped because of my lack of sexual urge and “sexual availability” due to various things on my end…one being my outlook on our relationship and how I was more focused on learning and growing and caring for one another spiritually, emotionally, and mentally versus physically.
@dianasloan6743 5 meses atrás
This is Good! I have been there and it is difficult when the other party doesn’t have the same vision or desire
@kayl9323 10 meses atrás
“Y’all don’t even wanna cry in front of people, that tells you how fragile you must be” the way I woooo’d! This was a great video.
@sharrissewelch3009 5 meses atrás
That communication part about what is working and not working in your sex life is SO critical. That was something my former spouse and I couldnt really ever have open dialogue about. Another thing to note about trauma in the marriage relationship is that men too bring sexual trauma that they may have suppressed. It takes prayer, patience and humility to walk and work through that. Thank you, Jackie and Preston. So good, y'all! ❤
@Mybeloved12 Anos atrás
This is sooo good! Have stayed pure and almost 38….does almost feel like you mentioned like once I’m married (had that purity ring and read those books, etc.) that sex life should be great. But, honestly I think that I’ve waited so long, now I actually feel a bit scared to have sex when I think about it. Prayers needed for once married and grace from my future spouse.
@nasinandizambia5900 5 meses atrás
God bless you more my sister,,,
@JeniJustJeni 5 meses atrás
I had my sexual debut on my wedding night and it was pretty bad and never got better. My husband refused to go down on me, was only interested in about 90 seconds off missionary. No interest in my pleasure. And I just thought that I didn't like sex. Eventually my husband revealed himself to be an abusive alcoholic. I followed the rules and lost.
@Diana734 5 meses atrás
​@@JeniJustJeni You need to take charge of your own pleasure and buy toys. If he has a problem with it you need an exit plan.
@nathanaelmorrison6073 5 meses atrás
​@@JeniJustJeniSounds like you did the right thing just with the wrong person. Maybe needed more time before marriage.
@twayallen5786 4 meses atrás
@shahidtate3188 4 meses atrás
This is a wonderful conversation. Very healthy and loving. Can you all do a video for men that have a hard time having hope for an exciting marriage? I feel like anytime I hear people talk about it, it’s always about how hard it is, and how much I have to let go of all these things that I want. Additionally, I feel like sometimes the grace, patience, understanding, affirmation, is so much more expected and required on one side than it is the other. “Happy wife , happy life”, but any lack, or denied desire I have is rooted in fragile male ego or some other shallow character trait. I do believe in accountability, sacrificial love, etc. Sometimes it just feels like there’s minimal benefit for the man, other than character development, and family. Which are huge yes, but is that all?
@snoel061203 Anos atrás
Brittany of the Intimacy Firm would be a great guest. She is a Christian sexologist. Also, it would be interesting to get a glimpse of how abuse of males could show up in marriage as well. A truly needed podcast, thank you!
@acharich Anos atrás
Oh my gosh!! Thanks for this plug!!! :D
@marthemendo1643 Anos atrás
Yes male abuse is not even ever discussed. Until it shows up everywhere in the marriage. Thank you for bringing this up. Def looking into your recommendation.
@kidchocolate9253 Anos atrás
Good idea to discuss how male abuse shows up in marriage. I think in many podcasts it is defined as Narcissistic abuse vs child abuse trauma.
@purfektliflawed Anos atrás
@-As4me 10 meses atrás
We all have a relationship with sex that is unique to us. The one you marry will not have the same relationship with sex as you. It’s important to find out that person’s relationship with sex before marriage. Not by having sex but by speaking about it with each other. One of the most powerful things to me when I was married, was that she gave herself to me. My relationship with sex was so different than other men's. I had a level of passion that was not normal. I never want sex to feel like I’m doing something to you and not with you!
@MethodiousMind 9 meses atrás
not normal, in a good way, or in a bad way. So your relationship with sex was good, or not?
@-As4me 9 meses atrás
@@MethodiousMind - It’s a personal thing, to be honest, but it’s not black and white. From some perspectives it’s a good thing from other perspectives it’s bad. To answer your question I would say I will say it was bad. When you get something before you’re supposed to have it, it’s confusing how to deal with it! My relationship with sex started at 5.
@MethodiousMind 9 meses atrás
@@-As4me As4Me I went back and read your original comment. I understand what you were trying to say. Thanks for your response.
@regheimbeck Mês atrás
This was so refreshing to watch. I was talking to this gentleman who tried to convince me “you have to try it before you buy it” when I told him I made a vow to God to be celibate before marriage. I stood steadfast in my beliefs and he could not understand why I would make such a “drastic” choice. But your conversation has solidified what God has taught me and what I have learned through my own choices and mistakes. Thank you for speaking openly and biblically and for shedding light on a topic that is avoided by most Christians.
@stephjshjohn0820 4 meses atrás
As someone raised in a religious family and in a biblically based church, no one in my influential circle put the idea of promiscuity in the same framework as you both; that having that experience with other people teaches you about other people and their wants, but not your spouse. That's powerful. Thank you for being so open and straightforward with your testimonies and insights.
@2601selah Anos atrás
They are so funny to me! Got me crying laughing LOL 😂 But in all seriousness this is a much needed conversation and I’m so thankful for their wisdom. We need more healthy, Christian conversations regarding sex.
@K82849 Anos atrás
These conversations are so important like we can’t ignore there’s an entire book dedicated to monogamous sexual passion that was even read on important holidays by everyone lol. The reluctance to talk about sex is such a circular problem- it creates the exact conditions that lead to it in the first place. We have to be willing to open up and be honest.
@timbawangu3038 Anos atrás
@acharich Anos atrás
What’s it called..? 📚💭
@K82849 Anos atrás
@@acharich lol Song of Solomon. Make you do a double take when you read it
@michaelgeorge6153 5 meses atrás
This was awesome. Both husband and wife openly being honest and speaking the truth!
@whitneybradshaw1243 5 meses atrás
My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. Im the only girl he has ever kissed. We’ve been married 12 years and we just had a conversation the other night about expectations in sex. It’s better now than it ever has been. Wonderful. While our sex life has had its ups and downs, we’ve never been tempted to be unfaithful to each other. Yes, he’s had difficulties through the years with keeping his mind only on me, but he’s never been addicted to pornography. And of course we’ve had to grow in this area as we’ve continued to learn ourselves. One thing we’ve always done is talk about what has pleased us. I so wish the church would have these types of conversations! Thank you for sharing!
The subtle shots in the beginning were EVERYTHING lol. Always enjoy the marital banter between you two. Great coverage as always.
@carmelleellis7368 5 meses atrás
Sister Jackie you made a LOT of sense!!! We are ever changing and our desires at “50”, isn’t the same as it was at “30”! I’m praying that married folk understand and respect the change🙏🏽 Thank you both so much for having this conversation because we truly need to allow the church to lead the way for sex and not the world!!!
@tehillahh Anos atrás
On a serious note, this was so helpful and encouraging. We don’t have enough honest and Godly talks about sex. Thank you for sharing👍🏾🙃
@lauratellez1520 6 meses atrás
Such a good conversion!!! I've been married 18 years, and yes, we're different people and enjoy or need different things at different stages of our lives. Loved this conversation ❤
@marslikedaplanet 8 meses atrás
this is good. this isn't how i thought the conversation was going to go but it was so needed. it struck my personal trauma and brought me a greater understanding of how to navigate through it. it's definitely interesting how our sexual experiences can impact our relationships, even after years. purity is definitely something i am aiming towards and hope that i can be secure and promise God celibacy.
@Abbiehousediy Anos atrás
I believe we learn sex from porn and TV shows and don't realize it. I wish there were more people that talked about this, thanks for this video 😊💖
@Elijahgavi 5 meses atrás
Facts as kids we knew nothing about sex until it was introduced thru something
@MsDeborahL 7 meses atrás
Thank you for this conversation and your transparency 🙌🏼 I have had many sexual encounters in the world that I never want to repeat with my future husband... I low-key wish I had just stayed a virgin bc I know I'll have to deal w that trauma when the time comes.
@BrandiNaCole 6 meses atrás
That part about faking moaning sounds so they can hurry up and finish to get off of you is sadly true. But sometimes I didn't even have that much mercy and would just lay there not making any sound at all because a lot of times I didn't feel nothing. So when Jackie said that it's sad because the man can't even read your body language, I just sighed a depressed sigh inside.
@labradog05 Mês atrás
what you mean they?
@BrandiNaCole Mês atrás
@@labradog05 You didn't learn pronouns in school? I wasn't having sex with my damn self.
@JAY-2 Anos atrás
I just want to make it known that I love the content you guys publish; meaningful and engaging conversations and topics... something that I aspire to have within my kingdom marriage. I value the transparency and relatability.
@BG-pr1rx 9 meses atrás
This was helpful tbh. I’ve waited and plan to continue till I’m married but society beats me up about it. I remember I was over it and just started blurring the lines with small things and the feedback was ughhh if a virgin does it like this I’m good. It could be as small as a kiss I kiss with passion and he kissed like I was a two dollar lady of the night. He stopped and made me feel so stupid about not know how he liked to kiss. Which killed my confidence moving forward I shut down or felt like I had to prove myself kissing wise. So I love that y’all pointed out marriage is work within the lines of sexy time. Also it’s hard for me waiting and not being compared to all the women he’s been with for me it was kissing. So my biggest obstacle is feelings free enough to be open and honest bc my feelings are now hurt and it’s hard to not return the favor
@stacycheramie2382 2 dias atrás
Thanks to you both for your bravery for us all I lack in being straight forward but listening to you two really has encouraged me to let my shame go and embrace who I am and what I need or want as well as honoring him Again Thank you!!
@katiegardiner806 Anos atrás
This was an awesome discussion. You've done the body of Christ a great service. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to you and the way you play off each other. I pray for continued happiness, communication and love in your marriage.
@ladysheam1567 5 meses atrás
Being single waiting on marriage this was a very interesting conversation feel like I’ve learned a lot from it
@monicabrown2334 10 meses atrás
This is so spot on. Having been married and divorced twice, I can openly say that sex was a problem in both marriages. Some of the problem was due to trauma and some due to drama (infidelity). It's difficult for a woman to not only deal with past trauma (abuse and misuse), but also be dealing with her husband's drama that he is bringing to the relationship. That's disastrous! Thank you for talking frankly about this! I also resonated with the discussion about the purity era of the 90's and the horrible idea that sex in marriage should just happen because one person wants it to happen.
@Msbmaxey8 Anos atrás
I have been married for 51 years and 8 months. We had been married maybe 8 years when my husband said, “you are not the same person I married”. My response was you are correct and why would you want me to be? Marriage and sex are both work!
@aleksybluu3647 Anos atrás
So what changes over the years that made you guys stay together, amidst different expectations in the beginning?
@RearviewWisdom Anos atrás
Wow this is currently me at the 8 year mark. How did you both push past this stage of your marriage ?
@shanellemack2565 Anos atrás
@@RearviewWisdom exacly, I'm here for the comments.
@ev2175 Anos atrás
Work in a bad way? Does it become a hassle? Asking as a young person.
@txbutterfly1979 Anos atrás
Wow, I’m so grateful for how vulnerable and honest you both are…I really needed to hear this conversation. I love how real y’all are about thoughts and emotions. Thank you!!🙏🏼🙏🏼
@130trice 10 meses atrás
Throughly enjoyed this faith filled podcast!God bless you two,for being candid & honest!
I love love love this frank, honest, open and transparent conversation about sex. Both of you compliment each other beautifully. God bless y'all for tackling this subject matter. Much needed.
@blackwomanblog 6 meses atrás
Love this as a person who is not married but have experienced sexual abuse, that is so big to feel safe, I was in an abusive relationship as well and he looked at sex as a healing property as to I would forgiven him for his behavior. This is so good!
@renaed5015 Anos atrás
This is real. My ex husband used to pout when I said no. Like full on silent treatment. For hours and then gaslight me saying he was "fine". The pressure that was put on me was so bad, it made me not want him at all. It's a matter of respect. Sex is not the only form of intimacy 💜
@lifeonleo1074 Anos atrás
Because men feel like saying No is not you saying no to sex but you rejecting them, as a man it can feel like you saying no to Me as a person, husband etc , everything that makes them them. It takes work the woman has to say it in away that makes it clear that it is not a rejection of him and I man needs to try and understand it that way. Like my wife sometimes says no, but then holds my hand and says I love you, always have, always will. That statement alone always made me feel a lot better about her saying no to sex on any given night.
@WeAreRoyalty7 Anos atrás
Just say not today but maybe Friday 😄
@Babyboy_Matt Anos atrás
@@lifeonleo1074 this is so facts 💯💯🔥
@lisacox3750 Anos atrás
@@lifeonleo1074 I agree with you. Yet, I also think that's something deeper that that needs to be explored in and of itself. Why do men automatically see that as rejection of them? What's really going on there? It's easy to say ..."tell the wife to do this or that..." but I think it's good to also get to the bottom of the real rejection.
@slimfit767 Anos atrás
The bible literally says "do NOT deprive each other of sex" its clear as day
@gailkennedy5727 Anos atrás
Amazing conversation. For the first time, I feel like someone understands. I used to say I felt violated over and over again in my marriage and felt bad for saying it. This was helpful.
@Naomi..947 Anos atrás
So sorry dear
@ibobpeb4 Anos atrás
I love the realness that you both share with each other. I’m subscribed! You both have so much to offer and help teach us to better understand ourselves and our partners.
@Image_Beauty 10 meses atrás
I love this topic and I appreciate you both being vulnerable I’m single and I’ve had this fear that when I get married that my husband won’t be able to satisfy me because I would compare it to having sex when I was in the world. This answered a lot of questions I had and gave me peace about what to expect and how to work out these issues in a marriage
@Drredrose 6 meses atrás
While watching your husband and wife video teaching, what came to my mind is: it must be difficult experiencing intimacy with a partner has had the emotional/intimacy with the same sex, particularly in a sexual relationship. The homosexual demons do not just get up and walk out of the house where he/she use to living. In other words, Jackie has to address those demons that lived in her , vis versa for Preston.’s sexual attitude toward women. Jackie masculine energy was dominantly portrayed when she was in the gay lifestyle and it appears to be still present in the relationship between you two communicating. You both play it off well by joking with one another. However the message comes across as be sarcastic between each other. Which is a put down not friendly jokes. I am not saying women should be stupidly submissive, like a weaker vessel but, in public interactions , Black women must learn to portray their femininity as a leader. Take a lesson from, Michele Obama, This is a challenge for most Black women, even those whom haven’t been in the Gay lifestyle. Black women tend to be strong will. As Black women we don’t let our Black men be leaders in public or the home. I think sometimes this issue is portrayed in both of your interaction on BRvid. How we present ourself, it’s a challenge for Black women to learn how to let the black man rise and be the head and the leader of the family. I think Jackie still dresses like she’s gay, which is an indication her masculinity is more dominant than her femininity, but that’s just my observation. There is a demon spirit associated with the homosexual lifestyles and when you come out of that lifestyle, you got to do spiritual warfare to command that spirit to leave your body so that we can be presence in the relationship and not as the man . God does not condone non-binary -cis-gender characteristics. These terms came from the question: What is a Man and what does it mean to be a woman? That’s a trick of the Devil. Now transgenders are non-binary, that there is no gender identity. I beg to differ God did not put Adam and Steve he put Adam and Eve in the garden, so which one is Adam and which one is eve? If he wants to be Adam then she wants to be Adam, then who is Eve. The question is, What does God want in the role as husband and wife he made man to represent Christ and Eve to represent the church “Period”
@danahoney4376 Anos atrás
I absolutely love this podcast! Well, ALL of them! The explanations were on point and give so much clarity and I am single...with 3 kids never married. Addressing the lack of biblically intact education on this topic is a blessing in it self. Hearing that the "test drive" is unnecessary due to the overall process of getting to gain intimacy with your husband/ wife was definitely given by the holy spirit! Love how God uses your union💗 thanking God for His abundant blessing in your family as a whole💗
@CHAUNDRAT Anos atrás
Wowwww you both touched on so many things! My husband and I have been married 23+ years and we just had this conversation about how we sometimes have to “schedule” our intimacy. He commented on how that is sad and I reminded him that it’s progress. Previously we would have been mad at each other if we didn’t have time or he’d do the “it’s okay” when I don’t feel good but his whole body language would tell me it wasn’t. Now we can say, hey tonight’s not a good night, let’s shoot for tomorrow. And it helps me to get the house in order so we have us rushed time together. Ahhhh so much goodness here! Everything affects the bedroom! 🤯
@Yemifolorunsho Anos atrás
Such an enlightening and very honest conversation. My take home: everything really centres around communication and how we choose to communicate our sexual needs with our manner in a way that facilitates growth for "us" And since we are ever growing, our sexual needs and experience will change so how we should find a way to "consistently " look for how "we" can improve our sexual experience with each other as per the growth phase we are in at a time . It simply bows down to couples establishing a structure that encourages honest conversations in marriage . Shalom!
@tishainnis Anos atrás
This is the REALEST conversation I’ve ever heard about sex within the Christian community. Thank you Perry’s!! 🔥
@Lucylu723 10 meses atrás
The reason why I love watching this video so much is that it's an open and honest conversation between 2 mature individuals on a subject that society labels as taboo when really it is not and it's just a part of life. ❤🙏🏾
@JessicaAhibo Anos atrás
Wow you guys opened my eyes to a new prayer point. I've never in my life seen a married couple have such candid conversations. I definitely want a partner I can be so real with. Wowww this is awesome to see.
@shalomjo Anos atrás
Awesome convos. We need to hear more about this in the Christian community
@musingswithmo Anos atrás
Yes Shalom!! Definitely agree 💪🏾💪🏾 There are so many thought processes that we won’t know we have until we get into marriage. It’s good to start thinking through these things right now
@shalomjo Anos atrás
@@musingswithmo yesss Mo 🤗
I can’t handle how good this is. Thank you guys for always being 💯 REAL.
@meredithdrummond8435 5 meses atrás
Y'all are hitting the nail on the head. I grew up on the purity culture and it seriously effected my marriage bc I thought oh I have been faithful to God and now I married the only man who doesn't want sex all the time. It was Soo hard. Getting better bc we had to walk through all of that and me who wants it all the time.
@meredithdrummond8435 5 meses atrás
Again men don't know how to read a women's body!!! I just had a hard convo with my husband a couple days ago about this same thing. Please talk more in the church about that. Bro wake up we give signs all the time.
@scmccollister Anos atrás
This was sooooo good! I’m still single and I wrote this on my prayer list about a 2-3 years ago. This was confirmation.
@markoskeepman4163 11 meses atrás
The comfort between the 2 of you and the honesty of this conversation is 💯. Thank you. Got bless you both
@lde2158 Anos atrás
You both are such a blessing to so many this session was so awesome I’m definitely sharing with others!
@teamroberts8263 Anos atrás
Glad you guys as a Godly married couple are talking about this on your podcast
@angelineo7424 10 meses atrás
For me it was Preston who asked the question that I thought I alone wanted to know the answer to. Wow, thanks for reading my mind, Preston! I also love his sense of humor, he's just so real!! God bless you both, Jackie and Preston!
@fionajensen2952 6 meses atrás
I love this podcast. Thank you for your calm energy 💕
@rochellebaskin7458 10 meses atrás
This conversation was 🔥!❤Thank you for be transparent, real and honest. I think y’all should do a series or dive more into it.
Loved this! So encouraging in the right ways! Emboldened to stick it out for the right one! x
@Savvytabby Anos atrás
You both are such an anointed couple. Thank you for sharing this 🙌
@reginamapp5086 Anos atrás
Great talk! Jackie, the foolishness has GOT to cease 😹😹. Preston, your ability to ignore it is so admirable. I don't know WHICH is more comical 😹. I know i always mention it but it NEVER gets old and yall NEVER disappoint! But you also never disappoint in delivering top notch, poignant content either! Much biggups!!
@RRR.LLLeee 10 meses atrás
This was great! The church needs this real life stuff. So many things were brought to light. Keep 'em coming! Thank you!👍🏾👏🏾🙌🏾😎
This is awesome, confirms so much that I'm feeling, I was sexually abused at 25, it still affects me at age 56. Affects my sex life in my marriage
I LOVE THIS CONVERSATION!! We need MORE of this! I am waiting for marriage and I need to know these things. Thank you so much for sharing.
@Daybara Anos atrás
I’ve followed you guys and you all help me in my marriage. I am very much like Jackie and I read that book by John Piper and it was beautiful! Keep doing this guys! It’s helping me
@daniellemoxey9940 Anos atrás
Love this convo and love y'all! Such a healthy lens on something that can be so easily corrupted! Let him use you🙌🏾❤️
@MsPeacefulme Anos atrás
No isn't always trauma, sometimes you're just tired and your body shuts down. You have to build to a level of pure unselfish intimacy.
@cd2612 Anos atrás
Absolutely especially for women who have full time jobs and then have to come home to prepare dinner etc while hubby just gets out of work and then just heads straight to the couch.
So how do we get there? Because that’s where I am and yes to that comment underneath. I really want to learn and not be selfish either.
@angelam.1416 Anos atrás
@@VanessaGonzalez-do2hf communication is good but at some point the man has to stop and look at his own actions. In the comment above, both went to work. Somehow in his mind, he deserves to sit down while the dinner prep and probably childcare gets done by the wife. She experiences a truly selfish, uncaring act. Why would a woman be in the mood? Seems like common sense but is the least common of all.
@WeAreRoyalty7 Anos atrás
@@VanessaGonzalez-do2hf set a date for sex. Being a mom, worker an homemaker is tiring, at the end of the day we wanna go to sleep 😴 but we still can’t neglect our husband.
@hillaryxoxo372 4 meses atrás
Thank you for this vulnerability because it gives an authentic depiction of what difficulties come with marriage. Now that I’m older, it’s nothing what I thought it would be like when I was younger lol